What Is Love?



Posted: Sunday, January 31, 2010

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Love-a strong passionate feeling of affect or regard; This is by far my far the best and my favorite definition. Although the only reason is because the definition "a feeling or emotion that rules out common sense and logic causing people to do stupid s**t." We can love a car, a tv show and many other objects, but when it comes to a person you choose as a partner, I think my definition is more appropriate.

Is there such thing as unconditional love for a partner? Can you truly be in love and look at a cheating or abusive partner the same? loving and being in love are two completely different things. Its easy to love, to care for someone and yes we gradually fall in love for a period of time. Unfortunately it is just as easy to fall out of love and only retain the love for someone.

Perhaps I am cynical, or maybe bitter. Maybe I'm still just 25 years young and still too young to know what true love really is. Looking at the turnover rate for girlfriends/boyfriends and the percentage of marriages that end in divorce, or one spouse being unhappy; I can't help but believe you can't truly stay in love with someone. After two and a half years in a relationship in which I have been cheated on twice among other messed up things I've been put through I can't help but think; this can't be what lobe is. There's no way its meant to be this way.

So what is it to be in love then? Maybe I will never know; perhaps noone will and we just use it as an excuse to stay in unhealthy relationships due to a fear of being alone. Maybe we stay for covenience because by definition we can still love someone after leabing the relationships. Yet a lot of us don't, myself included.

Although this is a cynical rant, I do want you all to take something from this. We may stay in relationships for a variety of wrong reasons. Maybe we don't want to be lonely, or perhaps we like the illusion of being coveted. Maybe we defeat ourselves by thinking we can't do better, or we simply feel a deranhed sense of secutiy and fear the hurt that will accompany leaving. The latter of the reasons being the most incorrect. The pain we will feel doesn't compare to the longterm pain thay comes from an uhealthy relationship. We never know whay lies on the other side of the fence, so instead of being miserable leave...see what awaits you in the next chapter. On the bright side; it can't be any worse.

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